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It is better, if God should will it so, that you suffer for doing what is right rather than for doing what is wrong.
1 Peter 3:17 NASB

Girl sitting reading book looking surprised. Barbara was working on her needlepoint, and I was reading the newspaper. It was any weeknight in America –just the way Norman Rockwell pictured it.

At least it was until our eighth grader, Benjamin, popped his head up from behind his school-assigned book and said, “Dad, I don’t think I should be reading this.”

“What do you mean, buddy?” I asked.

“This story–it’s got some pretty graphic details about a man and a woman in it. You know, sex!” He blushed a bit and shot a nervous glance at his mom, who nearly jabbed her finger with that sewing needle.

“Let me see that book,” I said. Quickly flipping through a few pages, I could see right away why he was concerned. He was dead on. This book was explicit and graphic as it spun a romantic tale.

As it turned out, we were able to help him get an alternate assignment. After his teacher originally threatened him with a zero for not reading this particular book, we came to a meeting of the minds and were happy with the result. But nothing made us happier than seeing our son’s conscience in action, knowing that at 14 he already had an acute sense of right and wrong–and the courage to choose what he knew was best.

I can promise you that living-room stories like these don’t happen without lots of work on the part of parents. Lots of Scripture. Lots of prayer together. Lots of offhand conversations, teachable moments and direct disciplinary actions.

If you’re doing it right, parenthood often means being a pain to your children, interfering with what they want. But those early years of character development are so important. That’s when you play the role of your children’s consciences–calling them, training them, prodding them on to a higher good, helping them learn the value of refusing evil.

Discuss
How have you seen your children’s consciences fire into action?

Pray
Pray that the Lord will always keep your kids’ consciences tender to His touch.

 

Taken from Moments Like This. Dennis Rainey.

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This is an interview that Dennis Rainey of Family Life conducted with each of the young men who wanted to date his 4 daughters. He wrote a book about this, challenging parents to get to know their daughter’s dates and have this conversation with the boys. It’s kind of hard to do in our culture, but as you will read below, this is a dad’s role in protecting his daughter’s innocence, not just her virginity.

Quite a challenge, huh? But i know as redeemed Filipino parents, by the grace of God, this is something we can emulate.

The Interview

Brace yourself like a man; I will question you, and you shall answer me.
Job 38:3 NIV

I wrote yesterday about an interview I’ve conducted numerous times with young men who have wanted to date our daughters. Lots of parents have asked me to share some of the things I cover when I meet with these young men. Here’s a “high fly by” list:

  1. A woman is God’s creation, a beautiful creation, a fine creation. You’ve certainly noticed that my daughter is pretty, is attractive and has a cute figure, haven’t you?
  2. The attraction of a young man to a young lady is both normal and good. I’m glad you like her and want to be with her.
  3. I understand and remember what the sex drive of a young man is like. Believe me, I’ve been there, I know what you’re dealing with.
  4. I’m going to hold you accountable for your relationship with my daughter. Expect me to be asking to see if you’re dealing uprightly with her.
  5. I’m challenging you to purity. I want you to guard her innocence, not just her virginity.
  6. I want you to respect and uphold the dignity of my daughter by keeping your hands off of her. Keeping this one precaution in mind will help keep you from getting into further trouble.
  7. Do you understand all of what I’ve just said to you? Are we clear on what I’m expecting and what you can expect from me?
  8. When you’re a dad someday, I hope you will challenge your own children to abide by these standards and will interview your daughter’s dates. My prayer is that you will never forget this conversation.

One of the greatest privileges God has given me is to stand alongside our four daughters and honorably and gently attempt to protect their innocence. Meeting with these young men has been one of the highlights of being a dad.

Discuss
Dads, discuss with your wife why this can be a little awkward to do. Moms, share with your husband how it makes you feel when you see him protecting your daughter.

Pray
Pray for courage to follow through with what you know to be right.

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